We’ve all been there. Sometimes we know it’s coming, other times we are just walking along the shallow end when one foot slips and the next thing we know we are struggling to stay above water. Doesn’t motherhood feel like this at times? One day I feel like a rock star mom, the next minute i’m wondering how many days it’s ok for my boys to wear the same pair of pajamas because it’s literally the only clean thing in the house. (Sorry mom) Why does it seem to take the tiniest thing going wrong to send us to the deep end? The deep end can be a lonely place to be. It’s easy to feel defeated, hopeless and overwhelmed during motherhood. That’s why it’s so important that we lift each other up. Encourage each other along. I remember once, shortly after I had my first born Griffen (who’s 5 now)… I was at the pool with a friend of mine, Mandy. Griffen was fussing and I got up and moved him to a different position which somehow worked and he stopped crying. Mandy looked at me and said something along the lines of “Wow, you knew exactly what he needed. You’re such a great mom!” Ya’ll… that tiny comment was 5 years ago, and I don’t think i’ll ever forget it. Sometimes that’s all it takes. Affirmation. The truth is that I was just guessing. I just kind of mindlessly moved him and hoped for the best. But after Mandy’s comment I believed her. It really lifted my spirit and I just felt more confident. Wouldn’t it be awesome if you could be someone’s Mandy? I wish I could say Mandy’s comment brought me a confidence that never left, but, as moms we need encouragement daily. Sometimes you’ll have a Mandy, other days you’ll be a Mandy. Think about the difference it makes when you get in the deep end of a pool with a child and encourage them to swim, telling them they can do it! Sometimes all it takes for someone to be able to breath is knowing you’re there with them. Watch for moments to encourage someone in the deep end, and when you’re in the deep end… look around. You’re not alone.
Here’s what the bible says about encouraging others…
1 Thessalonians 5:11 “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
Hebrews 10:24 “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds”
Galatians 6:2 ” Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ”
Encourage. Build up. Spur one another on. Carry the burden.
Picture by: Rachel Coney Photography
Did you just burst into song? Depending on your age you’ll either have Jackson 5 or *N’sync stuck in your head for the rest of the day. You’re welcome.
So often times Satan allows us to feel less than. He lets us look at other moms, other women in general, and just decide we’ll never be as good as them. He wants us to believe we’ll never be as faithful, as patient, as kind, as crafty, as <insert your weakness here> as them so that we aren’t living up to our full potential and getting into the word for truth. Meanwhile, God is telling us that we’re all he ever wanted. (See what I did there? 😉 ) Last blog I posted about deciding if you’re in or out. Today, it’s time to decide that you’re worthy enough to be in. That even if you’ve been out in the past, God wants you back. The bible tells us that no one will be snatched from the Fathers hand (John 10:29), not even you. In Psalm 138:7-8 it says this ” Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me. The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your love, O Lord endures forever- do not abandon the works of your hands”. As long as we are willing to live inside God’s will, he WILL fulfill his purpose in us, even in the midst of trouble. So if you read my last blog post and thought to yourself “I think I’m living outside of God’s will” rest assured my friend, he wants you back.
And for all you Jackson 5’ers … won’t you please let Him back in your heart? 😉
“Can you please decide if you are coming in or staying out?”
I feel like I say these words 20 times a day to my boys. How can it be so hard to decide if you’d rather be inside or outside? I promise they can somehow hear my sigh of relief when they’re happily playing outside and immediately the door opens! Today, as I was repeating these words for the third time (in a rather frustrated tone) I couldn’t help but wonder if God ever feels this way about me. God has this perfect plan laid out for my life, and all I have to do is to ask, seek, and knock for the door to be opened (Matthew 7:7). Do I want to be on the inside of Gods plan, or lost on the outside trying to find my own way? If i’m truly staying inside his will, would it not leave a lot less frustration for both myself and Jesus? When i’m banging my head against a wall because things aren’t going like I planned them, is God wanting to shake his head and say “Are you coming in or staying out?” Life is hard, life is busy, life is complicated… but we don’t have to do it alone! Lets actively seek God’s will for our life. Lets make a choice today to stay inside his will. Let’s encourage our babies to always seek God.
To all you mamas out there just trying to hardest to “guard what has been entrusted to you”(1 Timothy 6:20) you’re doing great! We’re all in this together and it truly takes a village. Find your village, love your babies, ask seek & knock… and next time you hear that door open for the 100th time in 5 minutes, I hope you grin at the question that comes next 🙂