Hello! Thanks for coming back for Part Two of what I learned when I washed my face. This is a blog post about the book “Girl, Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. If you missed part one, you can view that here.
As I said before …in this book she list a lie in the chapters title and then speaks trues into that lie.
Chapter 11: Other People’s Kids Are So Much Cleaner/Better Organized/More Polite
- “If you ever happened to find your peaceful inner bliss while raising children, please don’t tell the rest of us” Page 114
- “Ironically, I think embracing chaos might be the path to finding peace.” Page 115
- “If we believe we can do enough or organize enough or plan enough to make sure that nothing is ever difficult, we will only make ourselves feel like a failure when life is too hard.” Page 117
- “And if we choose to stay underwater without kicking our way to the surface, we eventually forget how to swim.” Page 117
- “Accept any and all help you can get and consider it a gift from God.” Page 121
- Bonus: “Adjusting your view can work wonders.” Page 122
Chapter Twelve: I Need To Make Myself Smaller
- “No one person can be your source for all the answers, but you can glean a handful of powerful thoughts here and a dash of insight there.” Page 125
- “Do you really think God made you- uniquely wonderful you- in hopes you would deny your true self because it might be off-putting to others?” Page 130
- “Do you stop yourself from daring to try something new because you’re already positive you’ll fail?” Page 130
- “Do you hesitate to admit your dreams aloud because you’re nervous about others making fun of you or judging you for your choices?” Page 131
- “I believe you are not a mistake- and feeling guilt about who you are (working, staying at home, overweight, underweight, overeducated, uneducated, emotional, bookish, street-smart, or whatever) does a disservice to yourself and the Creator who made you. Page 132
Chapter Thirteen: I’m going to marry Matt Damon
- “Because I think my ability to imagine my dreams in intricate detail is one of the biggest reasons I’ve been able to achieve them.” Page 138
- “In the absence of clear direction or real vision, I just imagined one, I latched on to the idea of a future so I knew a direction to walk in.” Page 139
- “For me, daydreams were an attempt to keep my eyes above the waves.” Page 139
- “Do you have a goal for yourself? I’ll tell you again: write it down.” Page 140
- “Naming your goals is also important, because often we struggle to even admit them to ourselves.” Page 143
Chapter Fourteen: I’m a Terrible Writer
- “Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business.” Page 146
- “You create it because you have a God Given ability to do so.” Page 147
- “You have to be willing to put it out there even if they don’t like it. Even if they hate it.” Page 147
- “Deciding that something is bad simply because other people don’t like or understand it is not a theory I can co-sign.” Page 147
- “You have to decide that you care more about creating your magic and pushing it out into the world than you do about how it will be received.” Page 148
Chapter Fifteen: I will never get past this
- “There are many types of trauma- big, small, childhood, adult- but we all belong to a club we never asked to join.” Page 153
- “I am still here because I will not let a nightmare have more power than my dreams.” Page 155
- “The path through hardship or extreme trauma is one of the most difficult things a being can encounter. But make no mistake: the only way is to fight through” Page 157
- “Talk about it” Page 158
- When speaking about her husband and the power of listening she says “He listened, and in doing so, willingly took my pain inside himself and made the load lighter to bear.”Page 158 *In light of all that’s going on in our world, I feel like this is so important. Sometimes all people need is for you to listen!
Chapter Sixteen: I can’t tell the truth
This chapter focuses on her struggles through adoption, I will write about the impact this chapter had on me in part three of my blog post. I think you’ll be surprised by my take away. 😊
Chapter Seventeen: I am defined by my weight
- “When people talk about divorce, they use words like irreconcilable or messy. But those words are too light- too easy for the destruction of a family.” Page 175
- “Food is an easy companion.” Page 178
- “Who you are today is incredible. You have so many wonderful qualities to offer the world, and they are uniquely yours.” Page 181
- “ I think we function better mentally, emotionally, and physically when we take care of our bodies with nourishment, water, and exercise.” Page 182
- “Today I believe it’s not your weight that defines you, but the care and consideration you put into your body absolutely does.” Page 182
- BONUS: Edit your media- “if there are seasons when following them doesn’t make sense. Be smart about it” Page 185 when talking about people or things that temp you on social media.
Chapter Eighteen: I need a drink
- “Need implies that something is essential, necessary.” Page 190
- “If I can’t be strong for myself, I at least want to be strong for my babies.” Page 191
- “The difficult seasons we walk through are how we learn to build up strength to manage any situation.” Page 193
- “Running, having dinner with my girlfriends, praying, going to therapy, or allowing myself to cry are the best methods I know of for building up the strength necessary to carry on.” Page 194
- “If you don’t feel strong, if as you read these lines you feel weak in your soul… I want you to ask yourself if you’re pushing to find strength or if you’re reaching for a quick fix. Strength is never easy to come by.” Page 194
Chapter Nineteen: There’s only one right way to be.
- “I didn’t know that being other was wrong, because I didn’t know that other” Page 198
- “I also know that I can’t possible love them well if I first demand that they be like me in order to receive it.” Page 199
- “We have to consider if there are areas where we stay safely inside the lines we’ve drawn or those drawn for us by our family of origin.” Page 201
- “Is it possible that the conversations we might have together, the questions we might wrestle with, the postures we’ll have to adopt in order to engage in a meaningful relationship would help us grow into better version of ourselves?” Page 201
- “We need to be in a wider community not because we’re attempting to sharpen their clarity on a subject but because we’re hoping to soften the edges of our own hearts.” Page 204
Chapter Twenty: I need a hero.
Chapter Twenty, the last chapter in the book, ends with these words…
“Stop the negative self-talk, stop abusing your body, stop putting off for tomorrow or Monday or next year. Stop crying about what happened and take control of what happens next. Getup, right now. Rise up from where you’ve been, scrub away the tears and the pain of yesterday, and start again… Girl, wash your face!” Page 213
…Can I get an Amen?
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